The Tactic of being Tactful
Inability to mask my feelings
Some of closer new friends around me have advised me to be more tactful with my words, implying that it is not always a good thing to be frank, or too frank...
Haha, oh well there it goes again....
I am under the impression that I used to be more "tactless" when I was in DHS. Under the impression that I have hopefully become more "sensitive" as wisdom and age mellow down my revolutionary,reckless, youth. I remember with fond (although tinged with a bit of guilt, not much) memories of answering Mrs Pang's question " What are the things you look for in a girl?"
"Well, I don't really know what I want, but I know what I don't want, and they are all present in this XXX girl"
My memories are clear. The class laughed with glee at the moment, particularly the guys, (including the girls, whom many criticise me subsequently), but everyone laughed, because I have said something that one wanted to hear someone say, but without the guts or intestines to say :)
Yes, looking back, I think I am an ass for being so callous and direct :)
Bias
I think I am a heavily biased person. If I think you are an ass, I will treat you like one. Civility is very hard to maintain. I either stay silent or I will say something to the effect of hurting you, most likely because I intend to. So damned it, how do I tell you I think you are an ass, without telling you I think you are an ass? ( Wait, the interesting thing is that the person has not done anything to me at all, but my primitive instincts, combined with my sensory perceptions of the persons, processed through cerebral processes tell me that I dislike him) ( something like that guy in our class whom never integrated with the guys and sound like a whinner, whim, shucks I can't rem his name)
Can someone teach me the art of telling the person he is an ass straight in the face, being civil in the process and having a nice, amicable relation subsequently? ( I can imagine Lu Gui Xia with a halo " Zhen Xiang!! Yao Yuan Hua!! Yuan Hua! Bu Ke Yi Zhe Yang Sie!!!!!!!!)
Life is so hard. Sigh. I long for the stone age days when the sign of showing affection is raising the club and hitting the other person on the head, and showing anger by hitting harder and cracking the head...
Simple and beautiful. Direct to the point. Gone are the days. No mind games. Lovely. Sweet.
3 Comments:
yeah la, but easy NOT to tell the person "hey you are an ass, stop hovering near me" " "Hey, I don't like you, when I invite other people to go out with me, i did not invite you! Don't come along you pest, shoo shoo" "Hey your presence is decreasing my utility, restraining my ability to joke and have fun"
Not easy la..
Haha... there are asses in my platoon in SMM who do not get it even though everybody puts it so clearly and blatantly across. Why bother. Asses are and will be asses.
Being yuan hua is a socialising skill, and is an attempt to put ourselves in positions which are most beneficial to ourselves. But if among close friends pple still have to be yuan hua, what the ****. Luckily we're not like that.
Looks like cs is getting pretty hyped up critising our *ahem* president scholar... Haha... but don't get too obssessed lah. And it's XIE, not SIE...
haha yea, suddenly everyone has become buddha and preach moderation even though I have been gone for only 5 weeks! tk said something that i funny and pretty good at the same time : Don't let a detestable person make me an ass
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